We also aren't interested in fulfilling all of your fantasies and having our ignored. I also feel folks need to be treated well - so you'll find me unfailingly polite to anyone that approaches me.
And heels and likes to flirt looks are not as important as a willingness to be open and a desire to explore on sensuality with someone else. Knowing that i'm in control of if nothing else my own destiny.
Enjoy cooking a great meal for the right lady or couple.